How can I tell my husband that I would like roses sometimes?

Year after year my husband gives me mini carnations. I love them but--- he used to just show up with flowers and they were mini carns. Last week we went shopping and he bought me a plant because it was on sale.

I have asked for roses. Back when money was an issue I told him how much I loved a single rose. He also seems to have forgotten that I love baby's breath with my arrangements.

If I say something today after receiving my mini carns, he will just say something like I can't do anything right!

How can I tell my husband that I would like roses sometimes?
Well... too late now, but here's some ideas.



1. About a month from now, try getting a rose for yourself and putting it somewhere prominent in the house (Your nightstand, the dinner table, somewhere where he can see it.). Repeat this about once a month or so. Eventually, he'll associate you and roses together, so the next time Valentine's Day or some other occasion comes around, he might get the roses instead.



2. If he does happen to get the rose, reward the living bejeesus (%26lt;--spelling?) out of him. Generally, we men are like puppies. We like to be rewarded when we do something right. I'll leave it up to you to decide an appropriate reward.



3. What are you getting him? If you're complaining that he only gets you things that are on sale or just of interest to him, and you turn around and do the same thing, wouldn't that be hypocritical of you? I'm not saying that you are this way, but sometimes you've got to give to get. Try getting him something HE really likes and tell him that you hope it makes him happy, then next time you might get something YOU really like.
Reply:My husband can be very touchy at times too. I suggest that you don't just "hint" at what you want. Tell him. You can say "Honey, I really like the mini carnations you always get me, but I would really like it if you would buy me roses sometimes too." If that doesn't work you can always post pictures of roses everywhere he will see them with a note that you would really like to have some.



Better yet, buy yourself roses. Not the same as your husband doing it for you, but we are allowed to pamper ourselves occasionally.



Misty
Reply:Well, at least you do realize that if you say something after he gives you the flowers, he WILL say that he can't do anything right, and your chances of his EVER getting you ANY flowers again are highly unlikely.



What difference does it make what type of flower your husband gets you, or if it has baby's breath in the arrangement or not? The important thing to remember here is that the man is actually getting you flowers. Remember that phrase, "It's the thought that counts." Because it really does. He's doing this for you because he wants you to know he cares for you. For you to criticize his choice of flower selection is crass beyond crass. Many women would love for their husband to show up with ANY type of flower. Be grateful for what you have.
Reply:be pleased your husband gets a plant its the thought that counts some husbands are assholes and don't work or get you nothing
Reply:How about you go out and buy any flowers you'd like, yourself? Your husband probably could care less about flowers, but he makes an effort and buys them for you anyway because he wants to show his love. Appreciate this fact, and just quietly buy yourself the exact kind of flower that YOU like. Put it in a vase, show it to your husband, and tell him, gosh I really like this %26lt;insert name of flower here%26gt;. Do it a few times, I assure he will figure it out. But if he doesn't - just buy your flowers yourself, and learn to appreciate all the other ways in which your husband shows his love to you. Forgive him is the flowers is just not his strong point.
Reply:If I were you, I would count my blessings that he brings you flowers. I would sit here are read other people's questions and find out what real problems are. If I were he, I think I would have stopped witht the flowers long ago if they were that unappreciated. Roses indeed! If you want roses that badly, go buy some for yourself occasionally. Some people have NO idea when they are well off, and you sound like one of them. I bet you did not mean to come across like this, did you? Good luck, and more luck to your husband who, in my opinion hit the nail on the head...he can't seem to do anything right for you.
Reply:try growing some at home
Reply:Tell him next week. Tell him the next time he gets you flowers do make it roses.
Reply:How about



"Honey, could you get me some roses sometime?"



It seems you asked once a LONG time ago. Remind him.



We men are pretty dumb when it comes to flowers. A few bucks to make you happy isn't a big deal.
Reply:communication is more important than some flowers. talk to him and express yourself, whether he runs to the flower shop or not.
Reply:Wow! I wish I had your problems. Grow up and be thankful you are getting flowers at all. Don't be so selfish and spoiled.
Reply:Tell him, "Baby, I would like roses sometimes".
Reply:Be greatful. He got you flowers.



I love carnations ....roses are overrated...you seem a bit ungrateful.......